The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Seducers

UNDERSTANDING WOMEN'S BIGGEST FEAR We've been lucky enough to date and befriend many extremely hot and sexy women. Since learning the "tricks of the trade" we've been with women we would have only dreamed of earlier in our lives. We've been with hot blondes, brunettes, women of every description, all from using the material in this book. On of the authors has a good friend and former lover named Dawn. She is 24 years old, long blonde hair, big blue eyes, tall, great legs, a huge chest, and loves to wear seductive clothes. She also loves sex, hot sex for hours. In short, Dawn embodies many men's fantasies. Before dating one of the authors she used to go out and flirt with guys at bars. She told us about entering a bar and seeing how the men would stop talking and stare at her, drooling like dogs. She said she enjoyed the attention, but she rarely gave out her phone number to or dated any of the men who came onto her in bars. Why? Because she was afraid. She would be attracted to a man and then get afraid of being physically abused or raped by him. After all, she didn't know him; she just met him at the bar. So she'd stay distant, unattainable by the many men who desired her.  women have in dating. Dawn and most other women smartly scope out men to make sure they won't be physically hurt by the men they date. They want to be sure they can trust the men they are attracted to before getting physically vulnerable with them. If you want to have success with women, you must be aware of this most basic female concern. You must deal with the fact that women you meet will be testing you to see if you are "safe," or potentially violent. We think this concern makes total sense. If we were women we would have the same concerns, and so would you. Put yourself in a woman's position: if you became aware of stories of rape, spousal abuse, torture and murder of women every day in newspapers and on TV, you'd be paranoid, too. Women need to be a bit paranoid because so many men are psycho. It simply isn't worth the risk for a woman to go home with a man who could hurt her. What this means for you is that you must do the things to create trust with a woman, and be sure to move at her pace when pursuing sex and relationships.

YOU CAN BE A NERD AND STILL SCORE

In writing, speaking about and researching dating dynamics, we talked to men from every age group and occupation. We've counseled middle-aged lawyers from farm towns in Wisconsin, and young up-and-coming musicians in New York. We've counseled computer geeks in Washington and writers in San Francisco. In the process, we've observed many of the hidden sexual dynamics between men and women. The men we talk to often have a laundry list of problems, concerns, and complaints, about their relationships with women, both past and current. Men often come to us in desperation, at the end of their ropes. They've read other books, tried subliminal tapes and pheromone-scented colognes, and nothing has worked. They usually come to us looking for confidence with women. They want to be able to meet women and make them into lovers. We give men the same advice and information you will get in this book: a systematic approach to transforming your relationships with women.One of our first clients was an attractive man in New York City. We will call him "Todd." Todd was, and still is, a very popular musician who travels all over the country, puts out CDs on major record labels, and is respected by many people in the music industry. He's beautiful, too—the guy even models and has been in commercials. He's a solo guitar singer/songwriter who performs in front of thousands of people each year. Many women find him sexy as he stands on stage, guitar in hand, singing with his amazing, satiny voice. You know as well as we do that women love rock stars. With Todd it is no different. During our first meeting with Todd, we couldn't believe that this man was having trouble getting women. We looked at each other and laughed out loud. At first glance, we were hoping Todd might give us some advice. We hoped he might let us be roadies at one of his gigs so we could meet the women who were attracted to him, and maybe go home with them. But here he was, with a problem! After just a few minutes of listening to him, we discovered the problem that kept Todd from being successful with women. Todd suffered from a severe lack of confidence. While he was in a situation that many of us would die to be in, constantly surrounded by hundreds of available women, he didn't have the confidence to follow through and seduce any of them. He told us he never knew what to say to women. He would look out in the audience and see lots of attractive women, but, even though he was the big star, didn't have the slightest idea how to start a conversation with any of them. He even admitted that women would wait to talk to him after a gig. but he rarely would go out with them. It was hard for us to restrain from smacking him, that he would dare to have a problem with women in this situation. We put him on a three-month program of coaching, goal-setting, and dating. He had made commitments about how many dates he would go on and how many women he would talk to. It took a lot of effort, but Todd now has sex with as many women as he wants, Todd is a useful example because he shows that even men who are surrounded by available women can have a profound lack of confidence. At the same time, other men are very confident with women, but are not in situations where they have much contact with